September 27, 2011

Provoked



I am a proud Indian. Someone who is proud about her culture, tradition and heritage. The rituals and practices performed and followed from yesteryears have always amazed me. Everything has a reason, and everything has a significance, whatever is done, is done for a good cause and a valid reason, I believe. Well, that’s my mind-set and it hasn’t been forced on me, it comes to me naturally, it runs in my blood, it’s a genetic ‘present’ from my fore-fathers to me, the ‘present’. And that’s the best part about being an Indian, and living the Indian way. (By saying ‘Living the Indian way’, I do not wish to classify ourselves in any category.) One thing follows the other naturally. Sometimes I see this being mixed up with “narrow- mindedness” or “not-being-modern” or “backward-ness”! Why? Just because we are a developing nation? Or because we don’t have a say for anything? Or just because we are so strong about something that people start thinking of it as our weakness? That’s bullshit!!!!!!
And excuse me! To all those people who think so, I feel that ‘you’, yes “you” are aping western culture by thinking so! You might be a die-hard-fan of Casanovas like Barney Stinson of “How I Met Your Mother” or Charlie of “Two and a Half Men”, but, “seriously!!!” it’s their lifestyle and their way of living, not ours. Being Indian doesn't just mean celebrating Independence Day or Republic Day, it’s sad but these days are seen to be as mere holidays for recreation and nothing more. I rarely see the true spirit of being an Indian in India anymore.

We have our way of living. You think Indian culture is not cool..?! FINE!!! Stop bitching about it. Everyone has their sentiments; learn to respect it, firstly. Secondly, if you can’t contribute to it, don’t do any harm to it. Being responsible grown-ups, it’s our duty to teach our siblings, children etc. our culture.

Marriage. Over 90% of the Indian marriages are still arranged, and less than 5% end in divorce. Only at the age of 18 I came to know that a concept of love marriages, and if it existed I knew that it was a disastrous situation or something synonymous of world war :-P. Why is it that people think that love should precede a marriage? Can’t it be the other way round? Love can be arranged. No, it’s not an agreement or an arrangement. It’s a practice, and that’s how it has been since yesteryear's. There is a right time for everything. Too much thinking outta the box, is not gonna help, my friend. Again, I don’t intend to say that my thinking is universal. It’s just my thinking and I’m highly opinionated about it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z8X97OL06OY

The Ramayana is one of my favorite reads till date. I idealize the “Rama-Sita-Jodi”. Every girl dreams of getting married to a guy like Shri Ramachandra (*Forget Prince Charming on a horse/ Vampire in a Volvo for the time- being* :-P :-P). And yes, I totally appreciate what Savithri did for saving her husband Satyavan’s life, from Yama- The Lord of Death. An Indian woman is loyal, committed and trustworthy. “One man, one life”. She is powerful. She is daring. She is charismatic. She is nurturing. She is devoted to her husband. (*Tuj mein rab dikhta hai, yaara mai kya karu types :-P :-P*)(*If you are thinking about infidelity, stop reading this post right now, and just get the hell outta here*)

God. Yes, he is present. Omnipresent. Everyone due to a religion divide in India follow (*don’t think twitter*) different Gods. Even I do. But, I do believe that there is an enormous energy that guides us throughout our life. This energy controls the universe, sometimes this energy is manifested in an idol, or a sculpture, or a picture or a scared scripture. That depends on you. But, it does exist. What’s with these atheists these days? That’s not cool! Rather “kewl”!! Gimme a break guys!

Prayer. It generates positive vibes, for me, atleast. And in turn, affects us in a good way. It’s a way to connect to the energy we believe in. Chanting shlokas and mantras makes us powerful, stronger from within. Again, it should not be confused with blind- faith. Haven’t you heard, “Faith can move mountains!”. It’s a way of the finite to connect with the infinite. Get connected! Trust me, it’s better than your 3G Reliance connections! Huh ! Coz, when everything turns topsy-turvy, you think of your last resort, God.

Family. The concept of nuclear family is increasing day by day. Joint families are no more common. Well, personally I would not give my opinion on this, but it is a great feeling to live with all your chacha-chachis, mama-mamis, foofa-buas [hindi]/ chithi-chitappas, athai- atthimbers, thatha-paatis[tamizh]. It is a great way to learn from childhood, to adjust and adapt and mainly, to live and love different kinds of people. The children who  grow up in such an environment are smarter and resistant to many things in life, in the long run, I feel. This generation overlooks family-bonding and prefers privacy. Way to go, guys! Bring up your kids in isolation and make them aliens.
HUH!
 


We have our own identity as Indians. 

And it is our biggest strength. 

We should protect our heritage and culture. 

And must be proud of it. 

Love yourself with your heart and soul for what you are 

and from where you belong. 

Only then you will sense the true spirit of being an Indian. 

Be static from the inner, it will make you dynamic from the outer. :-) :-) :-)


Celebrating Being-Indian & More!
27-09-2011

23 comments:

  1. my second most favourite post!
    absolutely loved it!very well written!
    proud of ya gal!

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  2. First paragraph and second topic about marriage made me feel better :p I was telling very special this morning how few ppl tease me saying me old minded. Ur 1 paragraph made me feel good :D I don't agree with ram Sita. Ram asked his wife to give proof that she was pure. That's bull shit. If u can't trust ur girl get lost then. I rather prefer lord Krishna who loved truly. Let me read rest of post and comment :p

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  3. As far as nuclear family is concerned its important to be get intro meet ur relatives. But as far as living in joint family it's extremely tough and not possible due to Tamil tv serials :p:p after marriage it's important to live in nuclear family not because u don't love ur parents or relatives but because u need to give space to ur wife. North India people live together but house are in terms if flat. 1 to 4 floors are for them. Unfortunately here we believe 7 ppl should adjust in same flat and living in different flat means nuclear and not joint

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  4. well, if it helps... its barney-awesome... ;) :P :P :P
    <3

    great post...

    <3-ed each and every line... i am falling in <3 with you...!!!

    <3,
    your silent-and-looking-at-you-always-from-a-distance-and-not-a-stalker-:P admirer...

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  5. wah wah....Are nari to PATIBRATA hoti hai..or usme bhi SATI jo bhagwan shankar (her husband) ke lia agni kund me kud gayi..
    SAVITRI jo yamraj se apni pati ki pran ko wapas le kar laut aayi thi..
    Ram-sita
    Radha-krishna
    ye sab ab itihans bankar hi rah gaya hai..:)
    ab to laila-majnu,veer-jara,hir-ranjha log hi hai..shayad agey bhi banne wala itihans inhe yad kare..:)i wish ki hamara Vishwa guru BHARAT puri duniya ko rah batata rahe..:)
    i hav great respect for ur thinking ..its my view
    its a great..!
    thanx a lot..:)

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  6. wow!! divya really lovd it...vry well written !!!

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  7. Another heavenly creation by Miss Divya!!!
    Obviously another masterpiece... Liked it... :)

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  8. dialectic div!
    And well castigated
    I am agnostic, as god despoiled many times bt
    yet hv a faith nd do prayers
    bt i feel god nd their stories r made jst by ancestors in order to govern our life in a positive way
    so fr me my parents r our real god
    and as Ram ji n sita ma is considered 1 thing tht went wrong wid the astute Ram ji tht he left sita ma jst on d behalf of his peoples opinion
    1 mst hv a faith in his soul mate u do jstice on behalf of aspersion of other is wrng
    Amnesty to write long!
    Yours
    amenable Fand many times bt
    yet hv a faith nd do prayers
    bt i feel god nd their stories r made jst by ancestors in order to govern our life in a positive way
    so fr me my parents r our real god
    and as Ram ji n sita ma is considered 1 thing tht went wrong wid the astute Ram ji tht he left sita ma jst on d behalf of his peoples opinion
    1 mst hv a faith in his soul mate u do jstice on behalf of aspersion of other is wrng
    Amnesty to write long!
    Yours
    amenable Fan

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  9. I guess people have already told you about ur post..! Still trying to add, I read it full..!! It says enough I guess!!

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  10. Very well written. Glad to know the Indian in you appreciates the importance of preserving values :) I see this post somewhere on the tunes of Krish Ashok's blog.

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  11. Similar perspectice here too. I agree with every point you've mentioned here. Brilliant job :)

    Convey this to ALOO & ur Anonymous admirer:

    Ram didn't ask Sita to jump into fire. He is a maryada purushottam. He failed to look into the eyes of Sita on that particular occassion. With tears in his eyes, he tried not to look at her side, for he was worried about what the world will abuse of his beloved wife. Sita understood that, she herself chose to prove her chastity (to the world not to Ram remember! coz she knows that he trusts her by all means).

    Their love is eternal. They even don't have to speak to each other to understand what's going on, on each other's minds. They are one by heart and soul. Also understand that Ram is a king. People should not judge Ram and sita's love by the crap shit Yash Raj filmy love they know. He is the LORD of all those in his kingdom who bow unto him. He is an embodiment of righeousness.

    In fact, once, he himself told to Sita that he wouldn't mind abandoning her but he would never abandon his Dharma. That is Sree Ram!!.

    Trust your soul mate, give proof for chastity, My foot! All this is bollywood way of seeing stuff. People must read Ramayan really, else they should stick to bollywood. They dare not comment on Ram/Sita with their half baked knowledge on Ramayan!

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  12. veekay, so ram was more worried about what world would say about his wife than him? thats cheap thinking .anyways i dont believe much in in . all villians in every hindu mythology always come from south india :P . even sati system will be supported by many . saying world will be unsafe for a wife to live after husband dies, so wife supportingly jumped into fire with husband . so many will talk about ur wife, ur gf in so many ways . if each and every time u doubt her or ask her to prove toworld, then like sita went underground, gf or wife wil do same after slapping the other partner

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  13. ur wife and ur mom should be ur dharma . not some stupid ppl around u

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  14. @Aloo I just thought you should read Ramayan. Now here is an addon, before taking up Ramayan, I guess you should take up English books prior to that.

    He didn't ask her to jump in fire/doubt her. Aah anyway! Can't explain Ramayan here.

    You don't become a king/ruler if you consider your wife and ur mom are as your only Dharma. You don't become the lord of the distressed when you hide beneath the saree of a woman and consider the rest as "Stupid-people".

    And about the villains from south India. Yeah! Such an Irony isn't it?

    Villains in those days were coming from south. Now it is all reversed. Villains like Raavan who oppose Ram and dare to speak ill of him are coming from North. Strange nah? :P

    PS: This will mark the end of my debate about Ram with you. I can go on this way forever but I won't. Not because I can't but because your ideology about Ram doesn't really matter. Even if I don't close this debate, Ram will settle this himself, someday, sometime.. :P

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  15. Delightful writing,90% of what u have written is exactly correct.we must be proud of our culture ,must respect god and our religion. On Ram-Sita view I don't know ,I always believe Devi sita was too good even for lord RAM(:P)....but it was very pleasing to see that even in this mod and so called COOL (:P) gen,someone somewhere is cherishing Indian culture ,,,just one word for that ,,,RESPECT..:):)

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