18+ & a Graduate!

Disclaimer- The following is a work of fiction (not to be taken seriously), highlighting the series of situations that usually turn up in a girl’s life who is 18+ and also a graduate, with a dash of sarcasm and humor! Enjoy :) 

As I’m currently being a victim of being in the “marriageable age” category, especially more prominently in the eyes of my Grandparents and their peers :-P, the very fact that time really flies and everyone looks at you as a full- fledged grown up, dawns on you all of a sudden. It hasn’t been long since you’ve finished schooling and graduation and there you go, people are ready to push you (no offence intended) into the next mega- phase of your life- marriage!

You get into so many awkward situations which from no- where turn outta be potential impromptu places for discussing holy matrimony! :-P The critical stage is when you are in your pre- final year of your graduation. Well, I have lost count of how many times elderly people have asked me (rolling their eyes, adjusting their bifocal spectacles, bending towards me and in a wishful tone, whilst giving you ‘the look’), “So, what are you doing these days?”, I reply (while addressing them in a respectful manner, trying to hide my coy smile), “I’m in my pre- final year, engineering”. You should see the look on their face, priceless :-P they say, “Very good, very good! So what plans next?” Many a time, my reply would be “M.Tech, then PhD!” :-P Yeah, done some trolling there! But hey!!!! I then had 2 years to go and that was a lotta time to decide what I wanted to do next!

Your maternal Grandma’s current goal in life becomes “your-ASAP-marriage” [of course, arranged] :-P It’s like she’s been waiting for this day since I was born! :-P She was eagerly waiting for me to complete my graduation. Even though I had to do it, I guess the day I told her about my last day in college was the day she had a big sigh of relief, though I should have had one having undergone the pleasure of studying for four years. :-P

Your paternal Grandma often tells you stories of how young she was when she got married, how she managed a household at that age and exclaims saying that at my age she had 4 kids. :-O :-O  in such a convincing tone that made me think to myself, “OMG! I’m not married yet!” :-P :-P

Your maternal Grandpa starts seeing The Hindu Classifieds (Matrimonial News) and starts asking you what kind of guy you wanna marry!! I better not write my reply here! :-P

Your paternal Grandpa (who happens to be a passionate and accurate astrologer by hobby, though an engineer by profession) starts looking up your horoscope, analyzing the positions and effects of the planets and stars with respect to my birth star, doing all those complex calculations and often saying how the astrologers outside predict wrong stuff and loot money in the name of astrology. ;-) 

Your family priest keeps whispering stuff into your father’s ears saying he’s knows a good match and yet again gives me the look! :-P :-O

When you come to your final year, the hustle bustle increases. I was happy to be in the final year, there was nothing but studies in my mind. But little did I know that they were even happier about it. :-P :-P

Things go even worse when you attend an elder cousin’s wedding. You get those “you-are-next-in-line-look-with-the-buhaha-evil-smile” from practically everyone, except your friend/ cousin who might be sailing in the same boat as you are! ;-) *you are soon to drown, and there are no life- jackets* :-P

Your younger cousin does some eaves- dropping and comes and tells you that the elder lot is discussing your marriage and pokes his elbow at you saying that he’s next after you. :-O Hahaha! He’s more happy about the fact that I’m next, and not worried about the fact that his turn was eventually gonna come! :-P

Why o why! The day the Government legalized marriages at 18+ (for girls) was the day they got a legal license to remind us at every able occasion that you have to get married, there is no escape! 

Well, I never denied it either! ;-) 

Yes, I’m 18+ and a graduate! The people around me love that more than I do now! :-P

#Random.Ramblings!

May 27, 2012

The Dying Race

"Being a full- time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love." - Mildred B. Vermont

The only way a woman can make a house a home is by "being in one" "making it one", in the true sense. With the passage of time, there's a rapid change in the priorities of women. More and more women are preferring to be working mothers. A house is just made of bricks, mortar and stone. A home has more to it. :-) Gone are the days when a woman ‘worked’ at her home. Now are the days, when she ‘works’ at an office, and indirectly for her house. 

Women are known to be primarily at the household doing domestic chores, taking good 'personal' care of their children, cooking, taking 'personal' care of the house, her husband, her in-laws and the like. Unlike in these days wherein the most of the women go to work and most of the household work is taken over by maids, cooks and helpers. 

Now, there’s nothing wrong in working and it makes absolutely no sense to be sitting at home with a professional qualification in hand. But when I was a little girl my mom used to be at home throughout looking after my every little need, and she did have friends who were working. But that was a situation I could never imagine for myself. She gave up her job after I was born and I always felt that she has done a great job in bringing me up. Going to work to earn a little more cash for the benefit of the family is good, with an extra income, the child would be provided with a better standard of living, but what the matter of concern here is to me, is that, the child these days is not getting the attention it needs to be given by his/ her mother during it's initial years of development. Maybe the children who have working mothers become more independent and responsible at a young age but do they also become more detached from the family?

Every kid yearns for constant personal attention and motherly love, warmth and care, and they shouldn't be deprived of that, for heck for earning a few more bucks. The whole idea of a working woman is indigestible in my eyes. I think the children whose mothers are homemakers stand out in understanding and perceiving family values in a better way. They are more loving, cultured, behaved, understanding and know the value of a family. They are more sensitive towards their parents. I have a lotta respect for the women who give up their career for upbringing their child in a wholesome way. Nothing to beat the food cooked by the lady of the family, there is a different thing to it. A cook will make the same curry for you, but the major ingredient will be missing in that, LOVE. Yes, I right away differentiate between the two, and so can you! There is a different charm the family has when the woman takes full responsibility of the home, that’s when the house truly becomes a home.

Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother. A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. I have seen my mother doing that many a time. Here I am not questioning the motherliness of a homemaker mom or a working mom, but what I am looking at is the home on the whole. The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.

"Biology is least of what makes someone a mother."- Oprah Winfrey

It’s not wrong to be a working mother, but I would surely say that a woman who is a housewife has an upper hand over the working mother because she spends more time with her family, and that is what is more important, FAMILY. What is more precious than this? I feel sad for the kids who’s mothers are so job- oriented and money- minded, who do not give due attention to their kids.

I would like to appreciate all the women, who sacrifice their career for the bringing up a family, because such a woman understands the true essence and the value of being in one. Hats off to The Dying Race- The Housewives!!!

April 1, 2012

She

 

It's an immeasurable driving force

That makes you insane

When you think about her

It’s like a dream-come-alive

She is like an uncontrollable passion

She’s a fire that burns you from within,

But with a healing power.

She’s a chill that makes you shiver,

But which warms you from within.

It’s like a jolt, a shock, an alarm, a buzz! ;-)

What you experience is

Exciting and Exhilarating  

It’s a complete state of happiness

You attain

When you talk to her

When you see her

There is no way you can describe

What she does to you

This is ecstasy, nothing less, nothing more.

She is incredible

Magical

Mystical

She purifies your soul

Hijacks your mind

Clogs your brain

Tingles your heart
This is bliss!!!

This is crazy!!!!!!!

She rips you apart

From head to toe

You’d never know what’s in her mind ;-)

Her glance might bring butterflies in your stomach ;-P

And make you weak in the knees! :-P

Her smile can kill you

At the same time

She gives birth...Enduring all the pain...
She's the mother of your child

She sometimes puzzles you
And gets you thinking about her! ;-)
She will cry her eyes out
And laugh her lungs out
Whenever with you!

She means a lot to you, and so do you to her! :-)

She might cuddle you to death
All she might expect is a kiss on the neck ;-)

A slightest of surprise might make her day perfect
She cooks for you with all heart and soul
She looks forward to see you when you come back home!

You love her, She loves you more!

She takes you on a high

Comforts you when you cry

She always supports you

with all her power and might

Emotionally and physically

Even when she’s unsure of her strengths

She mesmerizes you

Hypnotizes you

Keeps you captivated

And you love this feeling

You feel complete, she completes you.

She nurtures you

With her motherly instincts

She brings out the best in you

This is the power of a woman, Beyond imagination!

Have you ever thought about a world without women?

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Get out there!!!!!! And thank all the special women in your life! Be it your mother, sister, wife, daughter, friend or girlfriend.... :-) :-)  

Dedicated to all the wonderful women in my life <3 <3

Celebrating being a SHE! :-)

November 30, 2011